So many people are searching/striving for Life Balance. Matthew Kelly author of OFF BALANCE, states life balance is a myth. What people desire is Life Satisfaction–not balance.
“So what is it that people need and want? People need and want a satisfying experience of life. Over the past three years I have asked 10,000 people, ‘If you had to choose between balance and satisfaction, which would you choose?’ Not a single respondent chose balance over satisfaction. People want to live deeply satisfying lives both personally and professionally.”
Matthew Kelly, OFF Balance
Stewart Friedman, Wharton School of Business, describes it as Life Integration.The purpose is to improve performance in all four domains of life: work, home, community, and self by creating mutual value among them.
Welcome to Four Circles!
Four Circles is a simple but powerful exercise that has been used successfully by thousands of people to find greater harmony among the different parts of their lives.
Click to explore your Four Circles…. If I can assist you as you “work” your Four Circles, please contact me. Also let me know how it worked for you.
Another GREAT resource:
Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life
One the themes of Christmas is JOY
For a number of years, I have read, on & off, a devotional introduced to me by John Bigalke: Champagne for the Soul Rediscovering God’s gift of Joy, by Mike Mason.
Today’s reading: COMPLETE JOY
I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and
that your joy may be complete. John 15:11
“Gratitude consists of being more aware of what you have, than what you don’t.”
In 1636, amid the darkness of the Thirty Years’ War, German pastor, Martin Rinkart, is said to have buried 5,000 of his parishioners in one year, an average of fifteen a day. His parish was ravaged by war, death, and economic disaster. In the heart of that darkness, with the cries of fear outside his window, he sat down and wrote this table grace for his children:
‘Now thank we all our God
With heart and hands and voices;
Who wondrous things hath done,
In whom his world rejoices.
Who, from our mother’s arms,
Hath led us on our way
With countless gifts of love
And still is ours today.’
Here was a man who knew thanksgiving comes from love of God,
not from outward circumstances.
To share with Family & Friends this Thanksgiving.
- A gift that you are thankful for that you have received this year.
- Things you have learned about God this year that have changed your life.
- Things you are thankful for about your family’s faith.
- Things you are thankful for about your family.
- An experience your family had this year that made you happy.
- People outside your family who have blessed you in some way.
May He who gives more than we could ever ask or think
make your Thanksgiving more than you could ever hope for.
Enjoy the Journey,
8 Lessons Jesus Taught Us About Relationships
When someone you love tells you something more than once, you listen.
It’s important to that person, so it becomes important to you, too.
It’s the same way with God.
When we read the Bible and learn more about who Jesus is, we see how important relationships are to Him. Jesus showed us the importance of relationships in what He said and the way He lived His life.
8 Lessons Jesus Taught Us About Relationships
1. Jesus helps us see what’s right when we’re with people.
When we gather with other Christians, the decisions God wants us to make become even more apparent (Matthew 18:20). We see God most clearly through our relationships with others.
2. Jesus said love is non-negotiable.
The most important commandment Jesus gave us is to love God and love others (Matthew 22:34-40). Healthy relationships are so important that God didn’t just suggest we treat others well; He commanded it.
3. Jesus is our role model for how to love people.
Jesus did everything He could to help His friends and followers know God. We do the same thing when we’re willing to do whatever it takes to help friends and family members take their next steps in their walks with Jesus (John 15:12-15).
4. Jesus told His friends not to do life alone.
Jesus sent His followers out in pairs to share the good news of God’s peace (Luke 10:1-2). Rather than sending them alone, Jesus wanted everyone to have someone to travel and do work with. When God asks us to take a next step, He often uses other Christians to help us along the way.
5. Jesus redefined family.
Family is more than just biological parents, siblings and blood relatives; family includes other Christians, too (Mark 3:31-35).
6. Jesus put others’ needs before His wants.
After grieving the death of a friend, Jesus planned to spend some restful time alone. Crowds followed Him to a remote place. Rather than being angry and sending them away, Jesus had compassion on them and performed a miracle to feed them (Matthew 14:13-21).
7. Jesus shared meals with people.
In Jesus’s culture, sharing a meal with someone meant you were no longer strangers, but close friends. Jesus extended His friendship and kindness to people far from God, the religious leaders who thought they had God figured out, and everyone in between (Mark 2:15-17, Luke 7:36).
8. Jesus emphasized individuals over tasks.
Jesus wants His followers to care for hurting and troubled people (John 21:15-17). Rather than seeing people as projects to improve, He wants us to love the way He loved and serve the way He served — personally and unconditionally.
BluePrint for life….John Weirick, author
The measure of you as a leader is not what you do,
but what others do because of what you do.
……let us run with endurance the race that is set before us Hebrews 12:1
Every man has a sweet spot—a skill, an aptitude, a function that results in maximum impact for a given amount of effort. We’ve all felt them, finding ourselves “in the zone.” We probably have one, maybe two, but our sweet spots are what make us indispensable to others—to our employers, our families, our friends, to the people we’re meant to serve. Of all the things we do, our sweet-spot activities are where we make a unique difference. They’re the things we’re made to do.
Sweet spots aren’t random, nor accidental. They’re crafted by our Creator. And they indicate where he wants us to focus our lives—for impact. You see, sweet spots are crafted with specific needs in mind. God cares about those needs, whatever they are, and he designs us to address them (Ephesians 2:10).
Identifying our sweet spots allows us to analyze our days, our weeks, and prioritize. It allows us to begin to concentrate our efforts on activities for which we were made. It also allows us to create margin in our work life. As Jethro counseled Moses, we can learn to curtail or delegate activities that fall outside our sweet spots and, thereby, keep our work from unreasonably impinging on other important areas of our lives (Exodus 18:13-27). We cannot eliminate all outside activities, of course; but, we can better manage our time to emphasize the inside ones.
Okay, so what do we do?
Spend some time pondering your sweet spots. Now, grab a piece of paper and sketch out an ideal job description, one that perfectly leverages you in those spots. You won’t be able to move into that job instantly, of course . . . but the description should serve as a reference for making future decisions, allowing you to move closer to it, over time.
Some great thoughts
especially if you are a business owner, supervisor or employer.
If you want to know more about Appreciation at Work…..contact me.
Thanks for reading
. . . if anyone thinks he is something,
when he is nothing, he deceives himself—Galatians 6:3
When we men relent and finally accept that we’re designed for community with other men, we nearly always start with the wrong criteria for choosing which men. We often plot and single out guys that are cool or rich or connected or well-educated or who’d be good to know from a work perspective. And, if we don’t fall into those traps, we choose guys that are just a lot like us. We each think, subconsciously almost, “If I’ve got to devote myself to a handful of other men, I’m going to make sure they have some strategic value to me—worldly value, to my career or to my social standing—or, at the very least, they’re men who won’t challenge me or make me uncomfortable.”
Such plotting is a mistake. It’s driven by pride—that we somehow know better than God how these communities should come together. We must instead follow the blueprint given us by our King, Jesus Christ. He never once used this “strategic value” analysis. Throughout the Gospel, he spent time with people whom God the Father wanted him to—people with whom it made no sense to spend time, from a worldly perspective. Adopting this blueprint, the Apostle Paul wrote: “Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight” (Romans 12:16).
Okay, so what do we do?
Pray that God brings the right men. Allow him to connect you to men who are willing to commit and surrender, willing to be transparent, are desperate for him. Be forewarned, though, the group that comes together will probably look nothing like what you expect . . . and that’s good. Groups we create ourselves, based on worldly criteria, aren’t worth our time. Groups that God creates for us are worth everything.
From: WIRE www.gatherministries.com
John O’Leary was expected to die.
Today he teaches others how to truly LIVE.
Motivation is an INSIDE job.
I heard John speak a month ago and his message to LIVE INSPIRED …continues to challenge me in a very positive way. That is what I want to share with you.
I believe, we all need to LIVE INSPIRED…the world needs that message.
As a follower of Christ, it is my calling to LIVE INSPIRED. So please take some time in your busy world…maybe 15 minutes and watch/listen to John’s story...at age 9 he was burned over 100% of his body. http://youtu.be/mX-A_wPrwiw
FYI-I have used this video in my corporate Life Lesson sessions. This message has been well received.
I “borrowed” this blog from my new friend…Eric Swanson in Colorado. I believe it to be important “stuff”.
For over 75 years (yes you read that right) Harvard University has been tracking and studying the lives of 724 men from two different control groups.
The first group was from among the best and brightest—a group of sophomore men at Harvard. The second group was from Boston’s poorest neighborhoods, chosen specifically from the “most troubled and disadvantaged families…most lived in tenements, many without hot and cold running water.” They wanted to discover “What keeps us healthy and happy as we go through life?” Known as the Grant Study, it is the longest longitudinal study of men—following the lives of men beginning at age 18 to well into their 90s. The results of the study are contained in the 2014 book, The Triumphs of Experience: The Men of the Harvard Grant Study.
The authors of the study created what they called the “Decathalon of Flourishing”-a list of ten accomplishments, “which included career success and professional prominence, mental and physical health, a good marriage, supportive friendships, closeness to one’s children, the ability to enjoy work, love, and play, and a subjective level of happiness and measured the level to which each man in the study had achieved these events between the ages 65-80.”
So what did they learn? The fourth and current director of the study, Robert Waldinger, gives us the answer in his 2015 TED talk. “What are the lessons that come from the tens of thousands of pages of information that we’ve generated on these lives? Well, the lessons aren’t about wealth or fame or working harder and harder. The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.”
Waldinger goes on to say, “Once we had followed our men all the way into their 80s, we wanted to look back at them at midlife and to see if we could predict who was going to grow into a happy, healthy octogenarian and who wasn’t. And when we gathered together everything we knew about them at age 50, it wasn’t their middle age cholesterol levels that predicted how they were going to grow old. It was how satisfied they were in their relationships. The people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80. And good, close relationships seem to buffer us from some of the slings and arrows of getting old.”
Ecomically…it is not about the economics but it’s about healthy relationships. “The powerful effect of intimate relationships can be seen in a variety of factors in a man’s life, including their income levels:
+ Men with at least one good relationship with a sibling growing up made $51,000 more per year than men who had poor relationships with their siblings, or no siblings at all
+ Men who grew up in cohesive homes made $66,000 more per year than men from unstable ones
+ Men with warm mothers took home $87,000 more than those men whose mothers were uncaring
+ The 58 men with the best scores for warm relationships made almost $150,000 more per year than the 31 men with the worst scores
Finding love early
“The majority of the men who flourished found love before thirty, and that was why they flourished.” Brett and Kay McKay provide insight in their article, Love is all you need: “Why would this be so? Men who were loved, and learned to love in their younger years, develop positive mental health, resilience, and a capacity for intimacy — qualities that ‘reflect the process of replacing narcissism with empathy’ and lead to greater confidence, autonomy, social and emotional intelligence, and maturity. These traits in turn lead not only to more relationships, but success in other areas (like one’s career).”